We are indoctrinated from such an early age to believe that our physical female bodies are imperfect. That they need to be embellished almost from the cradle to the grave. Now there is a very good reason for this – MONEY – billions and billions of dollars are spent by women each year on products and procedures that make their bodies look different. The difference from how girls are generally brought up with regard to their perception of their physical body in comparison to how boys are brought up is vast! (However, obviously if there is money to be made………. And yes the male product market is massively increasing as boys/young men are now being told that they need to embellish their bodies to be attractive to potential partners etc etc)
You see many baby girls with earrings, pretty dresses (that are commented on), headbands, hair adornments; young girls with so much focus on pretty shoes/clothes etc and families that compliment them on their clothes/hair/shoes/looks instead of their achievements and accomplishments; and as teenagers and beyond – make up, fake hair/nails/tan/eyelashes; cosmetic surgery; the huge fashion industry based around “looking good” etc etc
What can we do to start loving our physical body again?
One of the first things we can do is to stop berating and judging and criticising it! My thighs/belly/arms/bum are too big/ thin; my skin is too pale/dark; I’m too tall/short; my muscles are too flaccid; my nails are too short/wrong shape; my feet/hands are too big/small etc etc
We could take the focus away from how we look and ask ourselves – how does my body feel? Does it feel loved/nurtured? Am I hungry/full? Can I move as easily as I would like? Would I like to improve my flexibility? Am I looking after myself emotionally? Do I need more support – physically/emotionally?
We could stop commenting to others altogether on how we look/how they look/how other women look. We can stop judging women on their looks altogether. This isn’t good for you or other women. If you hear yourself (inwardly or outwardly) judging another woman on the way she looks, how large/small she is; what she is wearing etc – I guarantee you that you are also doing this to yourself. The external world is reflecting back to us our inner thoughts at any given time.
Compliment yourself and other women on their kindness, compassion, loving behaviour, accomplishments, achievements.
Obviously, it makes sense to look after our body so that it has as large a range of movement as possible; as strong physical health and well-being as possible; is full of energy; is not displaying signs of nutrient deficiency; hair/nails/skin grows well etc
We could ask ourselves the question – what can I do that will show me that I love myself more? Do you need more time alone/quietly; with friends; with your partner; a relaxing bath; a massage? Physically pampering your body in a loving way that feels good is a great idea.
Collectively, women need to reclaim their power back over their physical bodies and inner strength. We are important, valuable, necessary, worthy, passionate, creative, powerful and needed in this world – just the way we are and in spite of our physical appearance. Reclaim your female power and inner strength now.