Excerpt from my book: “YES YOU CAN create a life you love”
Creating your vision and gaining clarity
Set yourself up, ideally in a quiet space where you won’t be interrupted. Read through the instructions below before getting started, so that you understand the activity as a whole. Then come back to the top and read through as you carry out the suggested steps.
Take your time. Quieten down. Contemplate. Reflect. You may even feel that you want to spread this step out over a few hours or a few days.
Either: a) Create a Vision Board
What you will need:
One A3 (ideally) piece of heavy duty paper or card.
Or: b) Create a Vision Book
What you will need: A beautiful journal or notebook or heavy duty ring-bound collage/scrapbook
For both: Colouring pencils, pens or paints.
Optional: Magazines to cut up; Scissors; Glitter and glue.
Make sure you have allowed yourself an hour of uninterrupted time. It would be good if you are in a lovely location, feeling relaxed. You may wish to do this outside, sitting quietly in woodland or beside water, or in the mountains. It might be more practical or you may prefer to be indoors. Choose a lovely room in your house, possibly light some candles, burn some incense or essential oils. Choose a place that you feel particularly drawn to, then sit and spend some time quietly becoming aware of your present surroundings.
Close your eyes and take a few deeper breaths. Allow your body to relax and your mind to calm.
Now create your vision
When you’re feeling relaxed and present, close your eyes and ask yourself:
What changes would I love to see in my life?
Spend some time thinking about how you would like your life to look – in an ideal dream life scenario. Don’t judge anything that comes to mind, just put it down on your paper. You will be coming back to edit this at a later stage.
Suggested areas to cover are:
Wealth and finances
Relationship with life partner
Living situation and home life
Career, work, vocation and life purpose
Spirituality, nourishment, looking after yourself
Relationships with friends
Relationships with family
Health, well-being, exercise, diet
Then start writing down and/or drawing this vision, detailing what you want and how you would like your life to look. Let your imagination soar. Don’t dampen down your dreams before you have allowed yourself to hear them.
You might enjoy flicking through magazines and finding words or photos to put on your vision board.
You might like to use your colouring pencils and write keywords that represent how you would like your dream life scenario to look.
Try and allow yourself to really enjoy this activity and get stuck in. Get creative. Don’t hold back. Really allow it to be your ideal, dream situation. If you want to own a speedboat – put that down. Allow yourself to daydream. There are no right or wrong images or words to put on your vision. Try not to judge what you are asking for. This is for you only – you don’t need to show it to anyone. Nobody is going to judge you. It’s ok to feel like you are aiming for a fantasy life. Do this in a playful way. Let yourself go. Dream, imagine, feel, see, smell, visualise, daydream, enjoy.
What to do if you are you struggling with your vision board
Now some people find this visioning exercise comes to them really easily. They are very clear about how they want their life to look and what changes they want to see in their lives. However, there are also many people that find this stage one of the biggest stumbling blocks. I often hear ‘yes, but that’s the biggest problem, I don’t really know what I want to do for a job/where I want to live/what I could change in my life/where to start/what I’m doing with my life’. These are really common comments.
I do think we all know deep down what we want, but for some, it is so deep down, it isn’t easily accessible. For others, judgement, fear, disbelief that we can have it, low self-esteem, past conditioning, our negative ego self-sabotage and/or a desire to put others needs before our own can block us from being able to notice and hear what we want without realising that’s happened. If this is the case for you, I would recommend you go back to basics and make a note of the small details of what you know you would like. I have compiled a list of questions that will hopefully help invigorate and inspire your vision and give you some statements, ideas and images for your vision board or book.
You might feel that you need to start pondering these questions below and then come back to it at a later point.
Questions to ask yourself
Do I want to be happy? How does this happiness look?
Do I want to be financially abundant? How much money would make me feel abundant?
Do I want a partner? Or to improve or deepen my connection in my current relationship? What changes would I like in my relationship?
Do I want good physical health? How different would that be? How would that look?
Do I want a reason/passion for getting up in the morning? What would make me feel passionate?
Do I want to feel good, loved, wanted, important and/or acknowledged? What things/people/experiences make me feel that now?
Do I want to travel? Where to? With whom?
Do I want to go on holiday? Where, when, who with, how often?
Do I want to do more physical exercise? What sort? What do I enjoy?
Do I want to move house or location or country? Or make changes to my current property?
How do I want my life to be, look, feel?
What inner emotions would I like to be feeling – happy, loved, secure, peaceful, content?
What changes would I like to see in my life?
What isn’t working well for me? How could that improve?
There might be one area or there may be many areas in your life where you want change.
For all of the above questions, please give as much detail about each of them as you can. Dream as big as you feel able to at this stage, and then put these answers on your vision board or book.
For example – do you want financial abundance? Yes. How much money per month or year would make you feel financially abundant? How much are your minimum outgoings per month? How much money would you need to help you feel like you could do everything you want to do with your life and your family?
For example – do you want to be happy? Yes. How will you know if you are happy? What things make you feel happy? What things make you feel unhappy? – this can help inform you of what makes you feel happy.